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These vibrators’ small size is actually their biggest benefit, as they are some of the most discreet sex toys—and travel-friendly too, as they’re easy to slip into a clutch, purse, or even be worn as jewelry (really!). You can always keep one close to you when on the go, just in case the mood strikes when you least expect it, and their unassuming shape and lower price point make them excellent vibrators for beginners. This quiet bullet vibrator features rabbit ears that can create a range of sensations against your clitoris. “You can let the ears graze and flutter against your body for lighter sensation, use the two ears to surround sensitive tissue, or put the toy’s body directly on your hot spots to enjoy the deep and penetrating rumble,” says Finn.

For powerful external stimulation on not just your clitoris but all erogenous zones, this may be the toy for you. According to Javay Frye-Nekrasova, sex educator and pleasure expert at Lovehoney, these vibrators have large, bulbous wand heads that rumble for the right amount of intensely satisfying stimulation. This device’s strong vibrations can be used all over the body for direct stimulation , and they’re also popularly used as head-to-toe massagers for sore muscles.

Our consumer reviewers also indicated its exterior was extremely easy to clean and maintain, and interacted well both with water-based and gel-based lubricants. The Satisfyer Penguin has no doubt topped many other lists of superior vibrators. But seriously, people love this suction-style vibrator, which operates at high-intensity but low volume. Just keep in mind that while it’s great for both solo and couples’ play, its shape is not ideal for pressing between two bodies during intercourse.

The Ignite is a top suction dildo that comes highly recommended by O’Reilly. “It’s perfect for hands-free play, as well as those who want to play in different locations around the house vibrators,” she says. “The suction cup allows you to use it on different surfaces, so you can explore various angles of penetration and pleasure.” Measuring just 4.5 inches long, it’s perfectly sized for newbies—plus, it’s just $20. If your search for the best sex toy is feeling like an Easter egg hunt, let us point you to Je Joue’s ILY Pebble.

A lot of toys have multiple settings, and that often allows you to turn up and down the intensity, speed, and/or pattern of vibrations. While it might be tempting to crank your toy all the way up (and you should totally do that when you’re ready to, even if that is, in fact, right away), you can also experiment with bumping up the intensity gradually. Though most people refer to the bean-shaped area at the upper crest of the vulva as the clitoris, New York City-based board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist Monica Grover, MD, says it’s just the beginning of this sensitive zone. “The external clitoris is located above the urethra and where the bilateral inner labia meet,” says Dr. Grover. This toy has a whopping 10 contraction rings inside it, for some serious stroking. The Onyx+ can be used for long-distance play, like the Lovense Max 2 above, by syncing up with another Kiiro sex toy (like the brand’s Pearl 2 vibrator) and replicating how your partner’s using it.

Apply a liberal dollop of lubricant to your sex toy before you get started to increase sensation and reduce friction. If you’re not sure how you prefer to be stimulated, the first step to learning about your own sexual response is to touch yourself without the help of toys. Once you’ve established what feels good to you, consider the following pointers. Whether you’re buying your first sex toy or you’re a seasoned shopper looking for something a little different, keep scrolling for our expert guide to finding the right vibrator for you.

Opt for designs that offer stability and comfort during prolonged wear. There’s no question about it, Grace and Frankie (which returns to Netflix for a fourth season on Jan. 19) is in uncharted sex-positive territory. While sex toys have made a fleeting appearance in other popular TV shows, basing a major series storyline around them is on another level.

A quiet motor is key to keeping someone from barging in on your alone time. But you also want a go-to that you can throw in your nightstand — or toss into your suitcase — without giving it a second thought. It doesn’t matter who stumbles upon your favorite vibrator if that vibrator looks like a necklace, or tube of lip balm, or a small piece of abstract art. If pressure’s your thing, we highly recommend trying this vibrating grinding pad.

If you live in a place with a removable shower head, it’s a great option for a discreet vibrator. Many people find the sensation of the pressurized water on their genitals pleasurable, and being in the bath or shower means you’re already in a space where you’re unlikely to be interrupted. If you don’t have a moveable shower head, but do have a bathtub, you can try lying on your back and tilting your hips into the stream from the faucet. Here’s yet another option, one that you can find at drug stores or big box stores (places like Target). They are generally made of plastic, made to plug in to an outlet, and are for external use only.

If you’re a newbie, you’re probably not going to want to start by bringing a gigantic piece of equipment into your life. Start small and simple, experiment on your own and then work your way up to something with more bells and whistles. Electroejaculation is another technique that can be used to stimulate ejaculation in men with spinal cord injury who are not responsive to penile vibratory stimulation. It aims to relieve muscle tension, reduce stress, and promote relaxation, providing a sense of well-being and comfort.